There are people in your life who are there to push you. Push your boundaries, push your abilities. We all need these people; they help us to grow, they encourage us to achieve, they give us someone to report back to. Sometimes, when we are the sole stakeholder in the production, outcome and reward of a task, it can be hard to carry through with it. If we aren’t answering to anyone, if no one else is relying on us to get it done, if the only person affected is yourself, it’s easy to rationalise that this task is less pressing than others.
Sometimes this is true – tasks for your actual job, you know, the one that pays the bills, should come before your hobbies. But if we constantly push aside our own personal goals in favour of things ‘more pressing’ then we are essentially assigning less value to those personal goals. We are subconsciously saying they are less important. And your own goals should never fall into a category labeled ‘less important’. Having someone checking in on you and pushing you on your personal goals means you have something to answer to. It means you’re more likely to get it done. More likely to accomplish.
There are a few people who push me like this, one who stands out in particular. And I couldn’t be more grateful for it. Sometimes I don’t want to be pushed, sometimes I feel like it’s too much, like I’m being hassled. But at the end of the day, I am always grateful more than anything else. I wouldn’t get all my stuff done if it wasn’t for someone pushing me. I need that person to help me in an area where I fall short.
The problem is, I am scared. I am so terribly frightened of putting any personal goal into action even slightly because it means I’ve started. I’ve taken the first baby step to try and achieve something. And only when you try is there the possibility to fail. It’s the possibility to fail that scares me. When you’ve got in your mind an idea of what you want out of life, of what will make you happy, there are 2 key things that can shatter that idea. The first is that you try to achieve it and fail. The second is that you do achieve it, but it isn’t what you thought it would be. It’s very possible that the second scares me more than the first.
So, if you don’t try you can’t fail. There is no fear. But here’s the kicker; you also can’t succeed.