“Doesn’t matter if the glass is half-empty or half-full. All that matters is that you are the one pouring the water.” – Mark Cuban
I’ve always thought of myself as an optimist, someone who sees the glass as half full. But that might not be true. Sometimes things don’t work out the way you want and there’s no point living in denial, trying to pretend you’re happy about something that just plain sucks. I might not always think the glass is half full but I don’t think it’s half empty, either. I simply think what I know to be true; there is a glass with some water in it. How much? Doesn’t matter. I never really thought about this until the words were right in front of me, but I agree with billionaire entrepreneur Mark Cuban. What matters is that I am the one in control of it – I am “the one pouring the water”.
I agree with this in two parts. Firstly, because while we can’t control every situation, we can (for the most part) control our outlook on it. We can control the way we react. Emotions are a very powerful thing, particularly if you struggle with how to deal with them or if they overcome logical and rational truths. While I understand humans can’t control the actual emotions we feel, we can absolutely control how we respond to those emotions.
This great skills means that it is entirely in your hands how you choose to go about being fired, being dumped, fighting with your friend. You can choose to dwell on the negatives and spiral into misery; glass half empty. You can choose to seek out any positives and ignore the rest; glass half full. Or you can see both positive and negative and take control of what happens from there.
Secondly, because I am a strong believer in focusing on what you can control and letting go of the rest. I think a lot of people get caught up worrying about things that are out of their control. Sometimes they even create unsubstantiated worry by focusing on the negative “what if’s”. It’s like having a full glass but worrying what might happen if someone tipped part of it out. Focus on the facts. If something bad should happen, deal with it at the time. Most of us already have enough to stress about, without adding a problem that doesn’t exist.
With any issue, it doesn’t matter how full or how empty your glass is, so long as you are in charge of what goes into it.